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Do you love baking? Tips on how busy stay-at-home moms can make money from it

Do you Love Baking? Tips on How Busy Stay-at-Home Moms can Make Money from It

Are you a stay-at-home mom who has a passion for baking but think you don’t have time to do it? In this exclusive interview with the amazing woman behind "Cake N Tel", Mommy Kristel spills her secrets on how she’s rocking being a stay-at-home mom to her two toddlers while pursuing her passion at the same time — and how she makes money from it, too.

Are you a stay-at-home mom who loves baking and wants to make money from home at the same time? Here are some tips on how you can do it even if you're a busy mom-at-home.

Many stay-at-home moms are probably thinking about how to make money while raising their kids hands-on and managing their household all at once. If you are one, you can learn a lot from Suzi Whitford’s 50 Real Ways to Make Money as a Stay-at-Home Mom (+ Hourly Rates). In that post, she mentions catering and cake designing as among the many ways that a stay-at-home mom can make money from home. 

If you’re reading this, you probably have a passion for baking and wants to earn from it, but isn’t sure where to start. Guess what?

I just happen to know a stay-at-home mom who makes money from selling fondant cakes, cupcakes, and other baked goodies from home. 

With two toddlers to raise and no relatives nearby, she’s incredibly great at managing her role as a stay-at-home mom while also pursuing her passion in baking (and selling her cakes to make extra money). 

Are you ready to learn her secret how she does it? Here’s her story (with a bit of mine, too). 

Not so long ago in early 2018, I began my “actual” journey to being a stay-at-home mom. I say “actual” because that was when my in-laws moved out to another apartment, leaving me to look after the kids on my own. The first person I reached out to was Kristel, a friend of mine from our church community. 

Kristel is also a stay-at-home mom with two small kids living in their own apartment with her husband. So you see now why she’s the one I approached for some advice. But not only that — she also runs a home-based business selling her own fondant cakes. Every time I see her post (on Facebook) a new cake someone ordered from her, I’m like, “How can she do that? She must be a superwoman!”

If there’s anyone whom I can refer to as an empowered stay-at-home mom, Kristel perfectly fits the bill. 

I admire her parenting skills and how hands-on she is when it comes to raising their kids. That was exactly her reason anyway why she decided to quit her job as a flight attendant at Emirates Airlines four years ago and become a stay-at-home mom. 

How Stay-at-Home Moms Can Make Money from Home - Kristel and her lovely family
Kristel, the amazing woman behind Cake N' Tel, with her lovely kids and husband

The first months as a stay-at-home mom

Just like any other first-time stay-at-home mom, Kristel was also overwhelmed during her first months staying home. And who wouldn’t?!  

“I am a homebody, but I never thought that being a stay-at-home mom was way far from being at home alone,” she says.

I can totally understand her! I’m a homebody myself, but that’s because I like the peace and silence that being at home can give. But that’s not possible when you have kids, is it? Although it’s more fun, but still. Lol.

And when it comes to the struggles and challenges, she faced the same as most mothers have: sleep deprivation, time management, and postpartum depression. One thing that she also struggled with is performing her duty as an officer of our church organization. 

How did she deal with these struggles? 

  • She sleeps whenever the baby sleeps;
  • She plans everything she needs to do ahead of time;
  • She talked to her mom friends for pieces of advice;
  • And she prayed.
sleep deprivation and postpartum depression are among the many struggles of moms
Kristel also suffered sleep deprivation and postpartum depression during her first months as a stay-at-home mom to her eldest son

“I’m also lucky to have a supportive and caring husband,” she adds. She’s still finding a way to deal with her struggle as a church officer, but she’s getting there. 

But there’s one thing she’s doing that I consider as one of the ultimate secrets of getting things done at home: it’s babywearing. Not just babywearing — back babywearing. 

(Related post: Babywearing Saves the Day)

She was the one who also told me about this when I reached out to her sometime back to ask for some advice. I tried it myself and amazingly, I was able to do more things at home! Especially since my youngest daughter used to be so clingy when she was younger (she still is, but less clingy than before). 

If you want to give back babywearing a try, just make sure to get someone to support your back when you’re trying it for the first time. It takes practice to do it all by yourself, but you’ll get used to it in time. 

Another piece of advice: watch out when your baby starts to doze off while at your back. There are chances that their dangling heads might hit somewhere if you’re not careful. 

Watch the video below for a quick tutorial.

Being a mom of two kids

In 2017, she had their second baby. 

And a new baby often comes with another set of challenges, even if you’ve been there. 

“I’ve had more sleep deprivation when we had our youngest. And my eldest became clingier,” she shares. 

Her solution? They made sure that their eldest son would feel that he comes first in everything. They spend alone time with him and always involve him in everything they do with his younger sister. 

Juggling motherhood and her passion for baking

For many of our friends in our church community, Kristel is well-known for her beautifully-crafted fondant cakes. She’s the go-to person when there’s a party that needs a stunning centerpiece. 

Her love for baking and cooking started when she was a child, and she got it mostly from her family. They were the ones who taught her to cook at a young age, and her love for cooking evolved to baking. And it’s mainly because she loves art. 

If you look at her cakes, you wouldn’t have to second-guess. 

How stay-at-home moms can make money from home - one of Kristel's masterpiece
One of Kristel's masterpieces is her LV cake she recently made for a customer

Everything she knew about baking and designing cakes, she learned all by herself (thanks to social media). She wanted to attend baking classes, but being a stay-at-home mom means she has a limited time to really do those things. 

In early 2013, she started selling her cakes. Her first attempt (what she calls her “guinea pig”), was her husband’s cake which had an Angry Birds theme. Few months of more practice and with lots of trials and errors, she began selling cakes to her colleagues. 

Make Money From Home as a Stay-at-Home Mom - Angry Birds Themed Cake
Kristel's "guinea pig" was her husband's Angry Birds themed cake

“Baking and cooking are my passion and my stress-reliever, even if it’s a stressful work of art!” she jokes.

Up until now, despite her challenges as a stay-at-home mom to her two toddlers with only her working husband to help her, she continues to bake cakes and even makes some money from it. On average, she earns an extra AED1,000 ($274) a month from selling her baked goodies.

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Another secret to getting things done

Do you want to know what’s her secret on how she juggles her role as a mother to her two small kids and her passion for baking? 

“I work fast… really, really fast. My timer is my kids. I need to stick to their schedules like their feeding time, bathing time, naps, and so on. There are few bumps along the way but as much as possible, I follow their timings,” Kristel shares. 

I think that’s where I really need to improve – working really fast! Lol. 

And her advice to her fellow moms who are looking for ways on how to balance their time between motherhood and their passion?

“I think moms should attend to their kids’ needs first. You know the saying, ‘happy baby, happy mommy’? If the kids are happy and contented, moms can do their passion, too”.

And lastly, here’s her top advice to other stay-at-home moms who are still struggling on their new role: “Ask for help — from your husband, friends, relatives, and from God. It’s not easy being a stay-at-home mom but you’ll get the hang of it. Don’t be too hard on yourself. If you get mad or frustrated, forgive yourself. It’s normal. Don’t forget to take care of yourself, momma. And, enjoy the roller coaster ride.”

So, do you have a passion for baking, too? Why not start pursuing your passion today? Who knows, you might also make money from it soon, too. 

For Dubai-based moms who needs cakes for their parties, you can get in touch with Kristel directly through her Facebook page. (I don’t earn any commission from this, lol. I’m just a mom supporting a fellow mom :p)

Share this post and let’s inspire other stay-at-home moms that they can pursue their passion, too (and even make money from it).

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How to Balance Motherhood and Passion, and Why Do it Now

Is pursuing our passion while raising our kids and managing our household actually possible? If yes, how can we do it in a way that won’t affect the quality of care we provide to our kids? Read on to find out.

Know how you can find balance between doing your motherhood duties and your passion

Once a person becomes a parent, pursuits of passion are typically tossed aside.

Since I became one myself, I can tell you how many people have actually pushed me to pursue my passion in writing: just two — a close friend of mine (my inspiration when it comes to pursuing passion), and my supportive husband.

It’s understandable. As I was looking for some inspiration for this article, I’ve come across one post that speaks exactly what’s on my mind. “Motherhood keeps us busy,” Lauren Gonzales, the article’s author said (you can read her full article here). And that is a hundred percent true. Motherhood keeps us busy we won’t even have time for a long, relaxing shower. Sometimes, even for a quick one. 

We spend our days looking after the kids, doing the laundry, preparing meals, cleaning the house, and so on. Even without pursuing our passion, it’s already tough keeping a balance between kids and home. So how can we even squeeze in the things we are passionate about?

Some might tell us to forget about our passion and wait until the kids are older. I actually considered that option. However, my passion was screaming at the top of its lungs that I needed to unleash it, or else I would have gone mad. The question is, how would I find the time to squeeze it in? And is this the right time?

When is the right time to pursue our passion?

My answer to this is NOW. Yes, there’s no other time to pursue our passion rather than now. But hold on… shouldn’t we wait for the kids to at least start going to school?

As I have said, I considered this option. But that means I have to wait for another two years. It wouldn’t be so hard if my creative passion wasn’t bugging me. But it is, and it’s been wrestling its way out from within me. You must have felt it, too. And I just happen to have read an article written by another mom (and she’s a Filipino, too; you can read Riz’ full article here) who had the same story.

So you see, you’re not alone. We probably have that voice inside our heads whispering over and over again — stories waiting to be written, songs waiting to be composed, countries waiting to be visited. They’re all in our heads, and we try as much as we could to ignore them. But each and every single day, they keep on tugging our sleeves, begging to be released.

Balance Passion and Family - Book

Once, I tried to put my creativity to use in our church organization. It was a relief, but there’s still something inside me that screams: “I’m a blog waiting to be launched. I’m a book waiting to be written.”

I felt paralyzed. I wanted to do something, but my hectic daily schedule won’t allow me. I became frustrated. Became grumpy. Stressed out. And so I realized, there’s no other choice but to pursue my passion now. If I wait too long, it might affect my mental well being.

So I talked to my husband about it, and he agreed. He didn’t only give his approval — he even pushed me. Of which I am so grateful.

It also makes sense why we should pursue our passion now. We must not let our lives revolve around our kids and our home. It’s tiring, and sometimes depressing, and we need a distraction to keep our sanity in tact. We must do things aside from raising the kids and keeping the house clean — things that we love and make us feel alive again. Something that would refuel our energy and make us bounce back to our vitality. Something that makes us forget we’re exhausted that we don’t even mind having less time for sleep.

As for me, I found it in writing. By writing in this blog, I’ve found another purpose the I could dedicate myself to. And I told myself that if I will use my kids as an excuse not to do it now, another excuse would come up soon. So I’d better do something about it now than have regrets later on.

How can we find balance between our kids and our passion?

It’s not easy, really. At some point, we’d either have less time for our passion or less time for the kids. So we can never really find a balance. But we need to compromise.

In some days, I could only squeeze in an hour for my writing. In other days, I’d spend few extra hours and let my kids watch TV for a while. Which means I have to do the household chores while they play and disturb me from time to time. And that’s fine.

We have our limitations, and there’s nothing we can do rather than accept these limitations and move forward. As what Mark Manson says in his book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck”, we just have to start confronting painful truths in order to find the courage and confidence we seek. And the painful truth is this: as moms, we won’t really ever find the balance that we so desperately want. We just have to stop thinking about it too much and live one day at a time.

So I call upon you fellow stay-at-home moms to start pursuing your passion, or perhaps, chasing that dream you’ve always wanted since you were a kid. You want to become a designer? A successful entrepreneur? A renowned pastry chef? A globetrotter?

Balancing Passion and Family - Baking
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I’ve been hanging out the online world for a while and I’ve read stories from other moms who are also successful in their chosen pursuit for passion. I also personally know some of them (read my exclusive interview with Kristel of Cake N Tel). And that’s how I know that it’s possible. We can conquer motherhood and still invade other territories.

Take baby steps — they will eventually take you there

Start small. Write down your dreams. Make a plan. List down your daily goals. We don’t have to do everything now, but we’ve got to do something.

When I was just starting to pursue my passion, I used to write at night when the kids are asleep. I’d type the words out of my head using my mobile phone because I can’t use the laptop since my daughter’s sleeping soundly in my arms. As months went by, it became easier. Now I type everything in my laptop and I have two hours in the morning to dedicate for my writing sessions.

As what they say, all it takes is time and patience.

Learn from others, and keep on learning. Celebrate milestones, no matter how small. That’s what I’ve been doing. And though I’m not as successful yet as those that I look up to, I’m proud that I was finally able to start this blog. I’m not sure whether I’ll be successful just like the rest, but I’m enjoying my journey anyway and it’s making me happier each day, and that’s what matters.

As for you, you just have to start here… and now.

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Life-Changing Secrets to Make You a Successful Stay-at-Home Mom

Are you a stay-at-home mom who has finally conquered its struggles and challenges? If so, are you now working towards becoming more than the woman that you are today? Here are 8 ways to help empower you to transform your life as a stay-at-home mom and become successful in your own ways.

This is part 2 of my post, “How Stay-at-Home Moms can Survive and Thrive“.

Life-Changing Secrets to Make you a Successful Stay-at-Home Mom

What makes a successful stay-at-home mom?

Our answers wouldn’t probably match.

While some of us look at being a successful stay-at-home mom as being efficiently managing our multiple roles at home, some have a different perspective. 

If you ask me, I would say that being a successful stay-at-home mom means I’m able to serve my purpose of staying home with my kids. No, it isn’t to become an all-around cleaner or a master chef of home-cooked meals. Although of course, it’s part of my duties.

My ultimate purpose is to personally guide my kids as they grow up in all aspects of their lives, most especially on their spiritual growth. That’s why I chose to stay at home.

Of course, I want them to have a successful career in the future, and to have a happy family of their own. But all of these only comes next after I see them as successfully fulfilling their duties to God and as members of the Church of Christ.

successful stay-at-home mom and kids

Now, what does it mean to thrive as a stay-at-home mom?

Being a mother is a game of survival where every stage of motherhood is a battle. And being a stay-at-home mom is yet another game.

“I will tell you though – being a stay at home mom is no joke.  From the outside, it looks like it would be a lot easier – nowhere to be in the morning, no more pressures from the outside.  But it’s not,” says Steph in her article on becoming a stay-at-home mom.

And I couldn’t agree more.

Although most stay-at-home moms are definitely happy with their choices (like me, and fellow stay-at-home mom Abbie who considers it as “living the dream” in her blog post), we still can’t hide the fact that there are challenges and struggles that come along with it. 

But we’re naturally survivors.

The thing is, since most of us just want to survive, we sometimes forget the need to thrive. Just like a deer being chased down by a lion, focusing our efforts just to survive the day. 

successful stay-at-home moms don't just run for survival like a deer

I’d say we should stop just trying to survive but instead, aim to thrive. To grow and flourish as a person. To become a better and even the best version of ourselves. To become a successful stay-at-home mom.

You might say that being a mother had already made us better. We’ve grown in ways we never imagined we could.

We learned to control our patience, to multi-task, to improvise. We’ve become masters of different skills. But that’s us being a mother. 

What about that woman within us before our kids? 

Don’t we have skills that aren’t about feeding kids and changing diapers?

Some of us are talented graphic designers, writers, or entrepreneurs. Some of us love traveling and exploring new cultures.

Do you define being a successful stay-at-home mom as someone who travels a lot with their kids?
Zaanse Schans, Holland, Netherlands. January 2019.

If we’re not going to pursue our own passion and chase our dreams, who would be there to teach our kids about passion and self-discovery? After all, isn’t that our ultimate goal why we chose to stay at home? Isn’t that how we would know that we’ve become successful in being a stay-at-home mom?

While every mom has their own standards of how they would define themselves as a successful stay-at-home mom, I know some of you agree with me (and that’s probably why you’re still reading this).

So, how can we thrive and become successful stay-at-home moms?

If you want to not just survive this thing called “motherhood” but to also thrive and become a successful stay-at-home mom, here are the steps:

1. Find your WHY

I’ve come across this when I was reading an article by mymommstyle.com. Camille says, “it is my personal belief that motherhood is a divine calling that I am meant for. This is my most important work. But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t room for me to work toward something that burns within me to give more or be more than the woman I am today.”

And I agree with her. 

That’s why it’s important to start our journey to becoming a successful stay-at-home mom with knowing exactly what’s our WHY.

When I joined an MLM company in 2016, this is the first exercise that we did after signing up: defining our WHY. We were told to create our dream board to remind us what we are aiming for, and to push us to do our best to achieve whatever is on that board. 

Thankfully, it reminded me that I wanted to be a published writer. And that has become my WHY. That has become my sign of when I can tell myself, “hey, you’re a successful stay-at-home mom.” Of course, that’s after I also I achieve my purpose for my kids.

Now if you don’t have a dream board, I suggest that you start creating one. I’m not sure if you believe in the “law of attraction”, but having a dream board sort of attracts positivity to your life that makes your dream come true. I can say that because 2 out of the 5 things in my dream board already came true.

My personal dreamboard. 2 out of 5 have already came true -- having a family with 2 kids, and being to Paris.

Once we know our WHY, it’s time to start a plan. Writing them down will help you keep track of your goals. So with mine, I had them all written down on my iPhone’s Notes. And once I was ready to nail them, I just had to look back and start each of them one by one.

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2. Don’t get too overwhelmed with your duties at home

With everything going in between raising kids and doing an endless routine of household chores, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. Whenever you feel like you’re head’s about to explode, stop. Sit down for five minutes and focus on your breathing. In short, just relax and calm down (here’s how to avoid the stay-at-home mom burnout).

We know there are lots of things to be done, and it’s not being weak or incompetent if we admit we can’t do everything alone. 

Delegate tasks between you and your husband. If your kids are old enough to help with the chores, let them. Hire a cleaner once in a while to deep clean your house. Ask a relative to babysit your kids once a week. Find ways to relax and master the art of self-care.

Once your mind is cleared and you’re no longer overwhelmed with your duties at home, then you can focus on ways to thrive and become a successful stay-at-home mom.

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3. Have the right mindset

Do you feel guilty because instead of reading a book about child development, you’re reading this article on how to become a successful stay-at-home mom?

While it’s our goal to guide our kids on their development, there’s nothing wrong with also developing ourselves as a person. Who else could be our kids’ role model anyway?

So stop feeling guilty, or feeling ashamed, or thinking it’s impossible.

If you want to thrive and become successful as a stay-at-home mom, you need to start from having the right mindset.

Start believing that you deserve to grow as an individual. Have faith in yourself and on what you can do. Have a positive growth mindset. Talk to yourself and say, “I can do better than this.”

If you want to become a successful stay-at-home mom, have the mindset of a successful stay-at-home mom. 

Sometimes, it’s all about tricking our brain so it forces our body to act like we’re actually what we think of ourselves. 

believe that you can become a successful stay-at-home mom

4. Focus on opportunities and possibilities

Once we become a stay-at-home mom, it’s easy to get trapped into a daily routine of parenting and housekeeping. Our mind starts to look at our situation as something “normal” because this is what stay-at-home moms do anyway, right? I don’t think so. 

I chose to become a stay-at-home mom to be there for my kids, and it just so happened that we can’t afford to hire a helper yet. That’s the advantage of working moms; they can still be there for their kids (they make up for it whenever they can), they can hire a helper, and they can thrive in their career. 

But not just because we can’t hire a helper means we can’t thrive in our passion. So rather than focusing on our limitations, we need to look for ways to do things more efficiently. There are various ways on how to be more productive (Kami shares in her post 5 productivity tools for busy moms), and how we can manage our time better at home. 

If we choose to focus on the lack of time or the fact that we don’t get as much rest as we want to, we’re letting go of the opportunities and possibilities of becoming a successful stay-at-home mom. 

To be honest, I just realized not so long ago that stay-at-home moms don’t actually lack time—in fact, we have lots of it in our hand. We’re just too focused on the perception that as stay-at-home moms, our only duty is to our family.

I mean, our kids don’t really need our attention 24/7, right? They need time to engage themselves in individual play. 

“My kid is clingy and doesn’t want me out of her sight,” you might say. And so is my youngest daughter. But not when she’s asleep. So I took that opportunity, woke up earlier every day before she does, and nailed down my writing goals. And then all the possibilities came pouring in. I’m not a successful stay-at-home mom yet, but I’m working on it.

Every situation is different, I know. But if we keep on telling ourselves that it’s not possible to become a successful stay-at-home mom and we keep on giving ourselves an excuse not to thrive, then it’s not really possible.

5. Look straight into our ultimate goals

As a stay-at-home mom, one of our objectives is to spend more quality time with our kids, right? And so, whatever we do should support this goal. 

Our kids’ needs should always come first. Everything else can wait for 30 minutes or so, even the laundry.

That’s why I’ve come to the point where if I have to stop what I’m doing just to cuddle them in their sleep because they asked me to, I will (and I just did while typing this sentence).

I’ve also realized that quality time isn’t necessarily more time. While we stay-at-home moms spend more time with our kids compared if we work from 9-5, that doesn’t translate to “quality time”. Quality time means we dedicate our full attention to them without any distraction. 

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Quality time with the kids also means for us that we take them out somewhere fun.

That’s why I’d like to think of myself as a “working mom”, too, whose day job is to do the laundry, clean the house, feed the kids, etc. When I’m done, then I spend some quality time with my kids by taking them out for a walk or playing with them. To be honest, I’m bad at managing distractions aka my phone, but I’m working on it.

Now, our ultimate goals might not be the same as the others. But whatever it is, we just need to start working on it and prioritizing it over the others, so we become more receptive to opportunities and possibilities to thrive and become a successful stay-at-home mom.

6. Keep on learning about parenting

According to Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum, “if we stop learning, we stop progressing in life”. I believe this holds true even for parenting.  We can read books, attend parenting classes, or engage with online mom groups. We’d be surprised by how much we can learn on top of what we already know.

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When we keep on learning, our brain gets the exercise it needs. And the more we learn, the more we become confident about our parenting skills. And the more we become confident in ourselves, the more we know that we can thrive as a person and become a successful stay-at-home mom.

7. Stop comparing yourself to others

Once we know our ultimate goals and we start to learn from others, it’s sometimes also easy to feel as if our goals and our parenting skills are not any better compared to other moms out there. So, stop comparing.

We’re all different and we have our own strengths and weaknesses. While some moms prefer to homeschool their kids, others don’t. While some moms prefer zero screen time for their kids, other’s don’t. While some moms prefer exclusive breastfeeding, other’s don’t. That doesn’t mean others are better moms. And learning from others doesn’t mean we apply everything we’ve learned. It just means we have more options to choose from.

successful stay-at-home mom - quote from Jill Churchill.

“There is no way to be a perfect mom, but a million ways to be a good one”, says Jill Churchill. That’s why we should go easy on ourselves. Cut ourselves some slack. Strive for good enough, and not for perfection. So as long as everything we do is for our kids’ best, we’re doing good enough.

If others are focusing on their role as a mother, don’t feel guilty that you’re also thriving to flourish as an individual person. You can still be a successful stay-at-home mom even if you do things outside of being a “mom”. 

8. Surround yourself with the positive-minded people

Remember when we were told that it’s good for stay-at-home moms to make friends? Apryl Duncan wrote an article about the reasons why we need friends, and that includes the reality that friendships are a necessary support system, which I believe so. 

In my pursuit of passion, I have friends who support me in what I do. But not all my friends are behind me on my journey, and I get it. You can’t always have what you want in life, anyway. 

That’s why if you want to thrive, you need not just to make friends and develop relationships — you have to make sure that these people who’ll surround you are positive-minded ones. You know how they say that we should surround ourselves with like-minded people? I believe in that, too. 

If you love traveling, then make friends with people who are passionate travelers, too. If you’re an art-lover, find people who love art, too. If you’re in love with financial investment, then network with people in the same industry. If you want to be a successful stay-at-home mom, talk to successful stay-at-home moms. This way, we’ll be reminded of our goals and we’ll never lose track.

It’s time to start thriving

With these 8 steps, I hope that you’ll also be able to start your journey to becoming a successful stay-at-home mom. Our definition of success or failure isn’t definitely the same, but remember not to measure it against others. We won’t be happy with our own success if we compare ourselves from the success of others (that’s what I learned from Mark Manson).

Here’s what to do next:

  1. Create your dream board and put it somewhere that you can always see i.e. your phone’s wallpaper, or at your bedroom wall.
  2. Using these 8 steps, start formulating your monthly plan (you can use my free printable 12-Month Goal Planner that you can download below; start with the first three months, and go forward along the way) on how you will achieve these dreams. Remember, a dream with an action plan becomes a goal. So, go for the gold and aim for that goal!
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How Stay-at-Home Moms can Survive and Thrive (Part 1)

How Stay-at-Home Moms can Survive and Thrive (Part 1)

Are you a stay-at-home mom who’s just starting out and not sure where to start? Yes, you chose this path. But have you prepared yourself for the actual struggles and challenges? Don’t worry though, because you’re not alone in this. The rest of us are surviving through these ways that I’d be sharing here, and so you can, too.

How Stay-at-Home Moms can Survive and Thrive (Part 1)

Being a stay-at-home mom is hard. I swear.

Some even say it’s not for everyone. And I’d be lying if I say I didn’t ask myself if it was really meant for me. 

I grew up surrounded mostly with mothers who worked, so when I dived into this territory of stay-at-home motherhood, I wasn’t sure what to expect.

But as most have had, I’ve eventually learned the struggles and challenges of being a stay-at-home mom, and I’m just glad I’ve survived.

The thing with our struggles and challenges is that they are so difficult to explain to other people. They wouldn’t probably understand how tough it truly is until they’ve become one themselves.

And yet, we carry on. We remain strong despite everything. But of course, we’ve been expected to.

Stay-at-home moms are expected to survive

Has anyone ever asked you how are you feeling so far? 

They know you’re fine because you’re still alive and kicking. Your kids are happy, and they assume you’re happy, too. But are you?

Of course, you’re happy. Isn’t this what you’ve dreamed of? Like me. This is what I’ve dreamed of. So I should be happy.

But really, are you happy? Aren’t you struggling emotionally? Aren’t you suffering mentally?

If you do, let’s talk more…

The Struggles and Challenges of Stay-at-Home Moms

You’re probably familiar with some of these ones (or maybe not yet…):

  • The guilt of not making our own money and not being able to contribute financially to the family. 
  • The sudden shortage of time, because most of it goes to bathing, feeding, and entertaining our kids. Anything left is where we try to finish the laundry and so on.
  • The result? Lack of personal time. Even time to take a long, hot shower. Or do our nails.
  • And because we lack personal time, the feeling of isolation and the constant craving for a meaningful adult conversation, which is also probably a result of spending day after day with no one but our kids (and our husband who’s mostly busy with work anyway).
  • Losing our identity in the process, because now we’re mostly babysitters, cooks, cleaners, housekeepers, drivers, etc. 
  • The exhaustion — oh yes, this! – when we’re thinking and doing things non-stop, with our kids’ nap time as the only time we can actually rest (if we even sleep instead of rushing to finish any pending chores).
  • The lingering sadness when all of these struggles pile up in our brain, and then there’s no one to talk to, resulting in depression. 

Some people would probably tell us that it would get easier as our kids grow. But I don’t think it will. I’ve heard stories from moms of teens who face far more complex issues. 

No, they no longer lose sleep like moms of infants and toddlers do, but they lose their minds guessing what their older kids are up to.

How do we survive these struggles and challenges?

To survive is to continue living despite the hardships, which we all are doing perfectly fine anyway. Or are we?

If you’re new to this territory, here are some solutions I can offer:

  • If you feel guilty about not making your own money, remember this: you may not be contributing financially but the value that you bring to your family by raising your kids hands-on is priceless. On another hand, talk to your husband. Come up with an arrangement where you get your own allowance so you can buy yourself what you want without feeling guilty, like what we do. Among us, millennial moms, staying at home instead of working (with or without kids) isn’t common anymore. So if it’s your ego that’s hurt, work part-time from home or sell something online. There are different things you can try, like these 12 side hustles. Or these tips on how to get some extra cash rolling in. I did blogging, though I’m not earning from it yet. For now, I’m just on the process of learning the industry.
  • Look for ways to better manage your time at home so you don’t feel like there’s a lot be done with so little time to do everything. Establish a schedule that you think will work you and your kids. I’ve created my own, and it worked wonders for me. If you plan to work from home, here are some tips to stay on top.
  • Once you’ve finally managed your time better, you can now have a bit of time for your self. Take advantage of this! It’s not your reward — it’s required, so you don’t fill from an empty cup. Self-care is as important as taking care of our kids, and there are various ways to do this! Try these 6 self-care ideas, or these tips on how to stay active.
  • Look for other stay-at-home moms to make friends with. Talk to them. Share your issues. Even if it’s only on Facebook, having someone to talk to who fully understand what you’re going through is a huge relief. When you’ve developed a hobby, join a tribe and engage with them. 
  • If you’ve lost your identity, try building it again one step at a time. Find time to rediscover your passion and start making plans about it. List down your goals and take action steps each day to bring you closer to your goal. Again, I did it with blogging. I am passionate about writing! So it became my outlet. It took me almost a year of just planning, but now I’m glad I’ve finally put these plans to life.
  • If you’re struggling with anxiety and depression, you can try these things that worked for me: pray and lift up your worries to Him. Talk to someone, ideally a fellow stay-at-home mom. Listen to your favorite music every morning to start your day right. Find a distraction — a hobby or anything — to keep your mind away from those depressing thoughts. And if nothing seems to work, consider talking to a therapist. If you’re a new mom and is suffering from post-partum depression, try these coping methods. Try these ways as well on how to stay sane as a stay-at-home mom

Our struggles and challenges are not exactly the same with other stay-at-home moms

To summarize everything, stay-at-home moms have almost the same struggles and challenges that people don’t usually see from the surface. But then there are ways to survive through it all. 

Not all struggles and challenges though are created the same. Some stay-at-home moms don’t suffer depression. Some don’t have issues if they don’t make their own money. Some are just fine without a passion to pursue. And that’s life! 

One of the worst things we can do is to compare ourselves to others and feel like we’re failing just because others are doing better. So don’t! We all have our own strengths and that’s where we should focus instead.

So before I end this first part of my post, I’d like to leave some actionable steps for you.

  1. Identify which of these struggles and challenges bother you the most, and then write them in a journal (or on your phone). 
  2. Start reading from available articles and come up with a plan on how you will overcome these struggles. As they say, written goals are more likely to succeed. Make a daily commitment to work on your plan. And include your plan in your prayers.

Now let me thank you for going this far. 

For Part 2, read my next post on “How to Thrive and Become a Successful Stay-at-Home Mom“.

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Babywearing Saves the Day

Babywearing Saves the Day

Babywearing Saves the Day | Guest Post

Have you tried babywearing, or is wondering what it’s all about? Find out how babywearing turned out to be an empowerment tool for a stay-at-home mom like Mommy Paola. She also shares valuable information about babywearing for some of you who haven’t tried it yet. 

I wish I knew earlier about babywearing when I had Serena.

Babywearing isn’t just about being a baby carrier and it’s not just worn when you’re going out. There are more benefits beyond that.

Serena and I were always left alone in the house while everybody’s at work. Taking care of a baby as a first time mom was a struggle especially when it comes to taming her when she cries. There were several times I got sick because of exhaustion.

As a newborn, Serena’s behavior was unpredictable. She became irritable as weeks go by especially at night when she’s colicky. Swaddling to comfort her simply didn’t work.

In the morning, it was very difficult to get something to eat whenever I get hungry or take a bath when there’s no one else to hold the baby. I could only relax a little bit at night when my husband finally comes home from work.

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Fortunately, my mother bought me a ring sling to end the agony. Tutorial videos on YouTube helped me how to use it. It’s also a dual purpose since I can use it as a cover when I breastfeed my baby outside.

Serena loved the ring sling. The first time I put her in it, she became calm and fell asleep quickly. I continued using it until she was 2 months old before I switched to a soft structured carrier (SSC) when she turned 3 months old.

The proper ways to use a baby carrier

My research about babywearing didn’t stop to make sure I was doing it right. The acronym TICKS became my guideline to know if I am wearing my baby properly. According to Baby Sling Safety UK, TICKS stand for the following:

T: Tight but comfortable for the both of you

I: In view at all times

C: Close enough to kiss

K:  Keep baby’s chin off her chest 

S: Supported back

The benefits of babywearing

The benefits of babywearing were also unbelievable. According to the Babywearing International organization, babywearing often result in the following:

1. Happy babies. It is said that carried babies cry less, therefore resulting in happier babies.

2. Healthy babies especially for those who are premature and with special needs.

3. Confident parents. Carrying your baby let you easily know his needs since he’s closer to you.

4. Loving caregivers. Babywearing is also said to create an exceptional bond between you and the baby.

5. Comfort and convenience. Carrying your baby allows you to do multiple tasks, like what I usually do whenever I carry mine.

The myths about babywearing

While there are benefits, Smart Parenting stated some myths about babywearing that are also important to know.

1. Babywearing spoils your baby and becomes dependent on you.

2. Babywearing makes your baby bow-legged.

3. Babywearing causes hip dysplasia; that is why it is very important to choose the right carrier that supports the legs and hips of the baby. Narrow-based carriers are a big no-no!

4. Babywearing causes arched back among babies.

Advocates of baby wearing do not support or promote any particular brand of a carrier because it is best to know first the safety and comfort of the baby before buying one.

I’m glad that I was able to join breastfeeding groups that also advocates babywearing as it is also best to be surrounded by people who give you the correct information. 

I hope my story will inspire others, and would serve as an inspiration to help in normalizing babywearing because I experienced how beautiful it is.

Indeed, babywearing saves my day.

Paola Gaabucayan-Ubanan

About Mommy Paola Gaabucayan-Ubanan

“I’m a first-time (stay-at-home) mom to a nine-month-old baby, and breastfeeding, babywearing, and ‘Tamang Kain‘ advocate.”

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